Is Sex Really Dirty??????????????? Total results: 17 Pages: 1 [ 1] |
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 ID: 190831 Posts: 383 | Date: 2007-04-26 09:58 i mean most of my friends are even ashamed of mentioning the word se yet we r in
medical school. most of the time they will say something like we r still young.
we happen to be in universty |
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 ID: 185214 Posts: 1299 | Date: 2007-04-26 13:40 It just sometimes tends to be embarrassing to some people.
Some can be pretty private about what happens during sex,
some want to spread it to the world.
But sometimes sex is just what happens with you and the other person, sometimes
the connection is so personal and great that you just want to keep it to
yourselfHowdy.I'm a 18 year old half asian from Ireland who really would love to get with an agency who can get her exposure or anything please look at my profile and get back to me  |
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| Date: 2007-04-26 13:43 I wouldnt think it was dirty unless you were in the mud!! LOL |
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 ID: 179376 Posts: 839 | Date: 2007-04-26 15:05 Not at all.....
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| Date: 2007-04-26 21:27 nope..it aint dirty at all,just dont get over the top |
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| Date: 2007-04-26 21:34 well.. sometimes it can be a little messy 
but not dirty in the sense that you as an adult shouldnt be able to say the word
S.E.X.
at this day and age.. i dont know how it is in most places..but here in Canada
most people are open to talking about it.. i mean we start learning about sex in
school when we're like 12.
I know i am open to discussing sex.. there are obviously others who arent |
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 ID: 146728 Posts: 91 | Date: 2007-04-26 21:37 Can be messy but it ain't dirty.
Sexuality is mostly culturally constructed, since you have access to the net do
a bit of reseach into the history and cultural aspects of sex. |
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 ID: 172911 Posts: 251 | Date: 2007-04-27 03:19 depends on how you do it lol
it's so natural and people shouldn't be ashamed to talk about that actually not
talking about sex makes much more problems |
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ID: 190831 Posts: 383 | Date: 2007-04-27 03:49 Cindy Hui:
It just sometimes tends to be embarrassing to some people.
Some can be pretty private about what happens during sex,
some want to spread it to the world.
But sometimes sex is just what happens with you and the other person, sometimes
the connection is so personal and great that you just want to keep it to
yourself
ok am not saying discussing what happened while u had it but i mean sex
generally.as a topic. i want to able to talk abt sex openly without fear of
people turning away but thats hard here |
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 ID: 154201 Posts: 187 | Date: 2007-04-27 08:21 If you only do one person, then it is not. If you do many people then it is.
Haha. |
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ID: 185214 Posts: 1299 | Date: 2007-04-27 17:56 Mercy Kaudresi:
[Cindy Hui: ...]
ok am not saying discussing what happened while u had it but i mean sex
generally.as a topic. i want to able to talk abt sex openly without fear of
people turning away but thats hard here
I never said that was what was happening while i had it :s i was taking about
why people see it as a taboo and prefer not to talk about it. and sometimes
those that dont talk about it are seen as people who think of it as being
"dirty"
Sorry for the confusionHowdy.I'm a 18 year old half asian from Ireland who really would love to get with an agency who can get her exposure or anything please look at my profile and get back to me |
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 ID: 183020 Posts: 267 | Date: 2007-04-30 16:39 no it is not dirty. it is nomal and should be discussed moreoften. in my school,
it it normal to talk about it. we dont see it as a big deal talking about sex. sexy |
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| Date: 2007-04-30 18:20 Sex was created for man and woman , sex is
something beautiful to be shared between a husband and wife
(but of course many may disagree that sex should only be between married
couples] |
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 ID: 182744 Posts: 1741 | Date: 2007-05-05 13:25  *Sigh*
If sex is dirty, then we all are since, except for a few thousand people, we are
a product of sex.
Well, it's
dirty until a religous dude or a judge says it ain't. (Can married people 'do
the nasty'?)
Most believe that sexual taboos are grounded in religion. Anthropologically
speaking, those taboos existed before being formalized into religion. Sentience
is the bad guy. Our sentient ability to settle down and grow crops.
When we realized we were slightly different than other animals, we accrued
something that no other animal can do: Aquire property and pass it down to our
descendents. There are animals that claim property. There are animals that have
systems of trade (money) and exchange property for goods, services and property
including paying the female for sex. But man is the only animal that can cede
property to the future.
That property in most societies was ceded to the owner's descendents. But who
are a particular male's descendents? We know who a woman's children are. Can't
help but notice. But women could not own property. Men were too strong and
greedy. A woman had to be satisfied with existing on property by a man's leave.
To this end, women would often tell people: 'This is his son, his eldest and
heir to the property."
Now, who was to say otherwise? DNA testing would take a couple million years for
results to come back and no one had time to wait for that. To prevent the
squabbles that were occuring when a man died, laws were written that spelled out
who the eldest heir was. Marriage. A couple bound together by law was the only
entity capable of producing a legal heir to property. And to prevent further
confusion, any child born outside the marriage was labelled and became pariah: A
Bastard.
This worked out pretty well except in cases where someone like a tribal leader
or king had no children for his wife and a bastard showed up as the only
continuation of the blood line. This would wreak all sorts of havoc so rules
became even more stringent regarding pre and extra marital sex. Some laws (which
still exist today in some societies) commanded death.
Religon evolved on the scene as a supernatural arbitrator of law breakers. What
with life being capricious and death lurking around every corner, a sentence of
death for having a little fun was not the scare tactic that it is today. People
had to have it drummed into their heads that yes, even after death you will be
punished for your sins. Religion took our natural fear of dying and our natural
curiousity about "is this all there is" and used it as a tool to control us.
Fast forward past promiscuous women being burned at the stake as witches to
today where we just call them sluts, whores and bitches.
Property is no longer the governing factor in determining proper heirs. We have
wills in which we can leave everything to the cat instead. But our history still
haunts us plus another factor: Sex produces children. Children in the unprepared
inhibit success.
100, 150, 200 years ago, children having children was no big deal. A 12 year old
girl was ready to be married and had maybe 2 to 4 years to find a hubby before
being relegated to the ranks of Old Maid.
Then technology intervened. A 12 year old was no longer capable of facing the
world. Women's suffrage came along and marched through the streets proclaiming
that women were more that incubators and house keepers. Educational institutions
opened their doors to women. A middle class grew up and the world shifted to
where you could no longer make or grow what you needed but needed to earn more
and more moeny to buy it.
Teenagers making kids could no longer be afforded. After a short lived
flirtation with sexual liberation in the 1920's God punished us with the
depression. We got back at Him by going to war and having our young men spread
there seed around the world creating the biggest population boom in the history
of our species. Things calmed down slightly after that and open sexual activity
became repressed again because those pesky little fetuses just interfered too
much with careers and caused you to mess up coat hangers to boot. Then some
smart dude invented the birth control pill.
YAY!!! It was alright to have sex willy nilly. No consequences like rug rats
popping out left and right. People started communes and the free sex movement.
Wife swapping and group sex were an ultra liberating experience. Love and sex
were, for the first time in human history, openly acknowledged as OK to exist
without the other. In fact, people were so confident that love had nothing to do
with sex that they were perfectly alright with their wife or girlfriend/husband
or boyfriend having sex with someone else. Sex has nothing to do with platonic
love, right?
Hmmmm. The experiment didn't really work out that way. Human beings like to
posses things, most especially our lover. We are a jealous race.
Well, the free sex movement was already dying down when something popped up that
could not be cure by a shot of pennecillin: Herpes. A little beastie that had
been around since before the dinosaurs found its way from cold sores around the
mouth and adopted to exist in areas where many cold sore infected mouths had
been: Genitalia.
Ah, the advent of an incurable and easily spread venereal disease from which not
even a condom was protection. Never mind that chlamydia was more prevenlent and
killing people left and right. Few people had ever heard of chlamydia. But oh, a
few short years later they most certainly heard of AIDS.
The die was cast. After a brief flirtation with legitimacy, sex again had to
retreat to the muddy, slimey depths from which its fould presence came.
Sex to me is not dirty unless the other person isn't clean. And if that is the
case, I will not be having sex with her. Shudder!
But sex between two consenting adults can be the most beautiful thing ever in
life. We have grown to an age where two or more adults can make informed,
intelligent decisions about sex and the law and religion have no business
interfering. The problem come when dealing with children who have not yet
developed the ability to distinguish healthy sexual behavior from bad. (And I am
not talking about disease when I say 'healthy'.) As an adult, the former child
will be exposed to sexual advances. How do you prep an adult to exercise good
judgement in the face of propositions? That must start with educating the child.
Unfortunately, we have not yet figured out how to do that properly. Children
entering puberty have their hormones run wild and then natural instincts to have
sex take over. We try to prevent this by saying sex is nasty, sex is bad, sex is
dirty.
For the minor, yes it is. For the adult, no it is not. But how do you unteach
the adult what was taught them as necessity as a child? You almost can't.
So people grow into adulthood sexually repressed. Conversations about sex are
not held in polite company. Desiring sex instead of the whole person is
considered shallow. Casual sex between two people who are merely physically
attracted but otherwise incompatable is frowned upon and chastised.
No, sex is not dirty, but other people consider it so. I have no problem talking
about sex, but most people do. So, I don;t unless asked.
People are expected to hide their true selve, their true nature. Keep the beast
inside. Never be vulnerable. What this means is that we never ever let someone
see what is really deep down inside us lest our partner, our best friend, think
less of us and leave us.
That is the true shame in life: That we can never truly know what is inside each
other for fear of losing someone.
So, we repress not only sex, but our true selves.
Now THAT's dirty! Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should |
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 ID: 189228 Posts: 294 | Date: 2007-05-07 11:54 Sex, not as a whole, by me, would be defined differently depending on each said
partner.
Usually when one speaks of sex as being "dirty" it is because they are ashamed
of something they did with a specific some one, or they simply were not ready to
commit to the act of sex leaving them with an awkward sensation of "dirty".
This is my experience growing up since the early 80's with my own sex life and
the friends around me.Everything I've done, and all that I have yet to do, is only to forget the meaning of your name. |
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 ID: 170792 Posts: 688 | Date: 2007-07-30 09:53 Sex...dirty?? hell No...have never thought of it being dirty. on th contrary its
awesome  |
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