As A Gal Can U Ask A Guy Out Total results: 19 Pages: 1 [ 1] |
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 ID: 190831 Posts: 383 | Date: 2007-05-01 07:14 i find it very hard to ask a guy on a date. i have actually never done it. any
clues in the house on how to go about it?????????????? |
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 ID: 179376 Posts: 828 | Date: 2007-05-01 09:00 sure...guys like to be asked...
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 ID: 183878 Posts: 1007 | Date: 2007-05-01 09:37 Have been there and had it sprung on me, starting in Jr. High School. If it is a
real surprise to either party, boy or girl, it isn't going to go well.
It is OK only when you know there has been some sign of interest--at least a
couple of glances. Maybe a guy is too shy to ask you out, but if he isn't
looking your way in the right way, asking him out might be counter productive.
I'm a friendly person, and I will look at people who I have some interest in
because they speak out or are doing something fun, but when I was younger and in
the dating pool, if I was interested in a girl romantically, I would glance, but
turn away quickly if she looked back.
If I wasn't interested romantically, I wouldn't avert my gaze because I wasn't
embarrassed by my thoughts. See how confusing this could be.
Later in life, between marriages, occasionally a girl I was shooting would ask
me out, probably out of pity or friendship, or friend with benefits date.
I guess a lot depends on maturity of the guy.If I haven't been there, I'm still planning on going!
If I haven't done it, I've still got time to try! |
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 ID: 182744 Posts: 1555 | Date: 2007-05-01 17:15 Speaking raw and honestly as a guy:
When a girl asks me out, she has already placed herself several paces behind in
the game. Why? Guys thoughts run to sex and how they can get it.
Most of the time when we ask a girl out, we are not certain if she likes us or
wants to have sex with us. We have to feel her out, get to know her, get her to
trust and like us enough to touch her.
When a girl asks me out, especially out of the blue, my instant guess is "Hey,
she likes me! I don't have to wait as long to try and get her into my bed".
A simplistic, rudimentary view? Perhaps. Men are simplistic. (Excepting, of
course, all those men who will now write in and let you know how caring and
sensitive they are, and that they want to get to know you as a person.)
Ha-choo!!! Ah, pardon the sneeze. Allergic to bovine excrement here.
Many women see being able to ask a man out as empowerment, as being equal to a
man and all the things he is privileged by birthright to be able to do.
Frankly, ladies, you may be equal to a man, but you are not equivalent to a man.
Just the same, men are not equivalent to a woman. Our erection says that at some
point in time you must submit to us to keep us. Our erection says we will be in
control at some point.
Your vagina says that YOU have absolute total control and power. But that power
gets given up at some point, at least temporarily.
You have something we want, desperately that cannot be substituted for by
something else. Being able to ask a man out might be fun, daring and seem
empowering but actually weakens you.
What in the world do you want with a man who is so insecure that the prospect of
being turned down for a date defeats him into the shy, defeatist silence of a
recluse? Well, maybe he just hasn't noticed me, you say. Maybe he does not know
I like him, you say.
First, if he has not noticed you on his own, that is likely saying that there is
not a natural interest. Of course, after you reveal your interest to him in such
a non-subtle way, oh yes, he will take a VERY keen interest in you. Guaranteed
pussy is the light shining in his eyes.
Second, any girl can easily throw a thousand subtle clues that will make a man
sit up and take notice. Once a man even questions in his mind 'does she like
me?' you have him hooked. The test of character now is whether or not he has the
balls to approach you.
Remember, ladies, you give up something physically during any sex act. Men
rarely do. From the vaginal chafing that occurs during all sex, to the
depositing of chemicals inside you that cause certain other chemical and immune
system changes in your entire body, to diseases that women get that men don't
(cervical cancer), every sex act is a potential life changing moment for you.
And for men? We zip up our pants reluctantly and wait for the next prospect to
come along.
If he is worth it, ladies, he will vest time and energy and effort in chasing
you. Men WILL come to you, you have no need to rush to them.
So...to quote Larry: Guys like to be asked!   Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should  |
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 ID: 191108 Posts: 12 | Date: 2007-05-02 01:17 ^^ what he said is the truth if not a little blunt, i generally get a little
turned off when women approach me. you guys lose a lot of your natural power
when when you approach first. and the only guys that dont feel that way are the
ones who dont yet have the guts to apprach a hot woman like you... if your out
of high school your probably looking for a man not a boy. besides there are
COUNTLESS ways to let a confident man know you're interested and should be
approached.
there is however ONE way ive seen work on me time and time again (and this is
truly an evil thing to put a man through) :
approach your dude and tell him that he's hot/ fine/ has an awesome personality/
you would like to get to know him better, etc. etc. w/e comes to mind.
if he found you attractive from the beginning, he will start to chase what he
thinks is easy booty, and thats when you pull back and go flirt with someone
else or just ignore him a little bit, he'll think that he did something wrong
since you made it so clear that it was in the bag, he'll start to supplicate to
you to get back in your good graces, so that he can get "the sure thing" .
after a few days of trying or so he'll give it up as a lost cause and thats when
you repeat the pattern (this is evil stuff)
the reason this works is because men want to chase there prey (women) and when
you give him motive (easy pussy) plus jealousy (the other guy or lack of
interest) you have a man who is firing on all cylinders trying to get you. which
is what he wanted to get in the first place. ( a woman he could chase and
win)
so really the only thing thats is truly evil about this is when women dont let
the guy get them after having played with him like a puppet.
ive never minded this game however for the simple fact that i usually get them
as well as the fact that there so few women who know how to do this properly.
-dimeonce in a lifetime happens everyday
-me |
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 ID: 191576 Posts: 11 | Date: 2007-05-02 03:24 YES OF COZ...!! heheh |
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| Date: 2007-05-02 07:34 i think there should be a different approach.
Guys ask girls out like.. "can we date"
Girls should probably just try to be friendly if you want a certain guy to like
you, dont be too obvious. also you should know if this certain guy feels you.
coz when a girl gets turned down thats a different thing. |
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 ID: 189228 Posts: 294 | Date: 2007-05-02 12:40 I don't really think there is anything "wrong" with it, in and of itself.
Some guys prefer to do the asking if they are romantic or old style.
I've never asked a guy on a date specifically. Though I have invited a guy to
"hang out".
Then again I've never had a need to ask a guy on a date, they do it for me,
whether I'm interested or not.
If you are shy about it, or not sure how the guy would take it. Spend some time
getting to know him better, hanging around with friends, and then try to ask him
to hang out with you and a smaller group of people, and let that group get
smaller and smaller till you get to one on one time. 
Unless you are really good friends, or people view you as "one of the guys".
Most men will not show any interest in hanging out with you in smaller groups
let alone on one. That can usually be a good indicator as to if they are even
interested in you.Everything I've done, and all that I have yet to do, is only to forget the meaning of your name. |
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| Date: 2007-05-02 16:21 Mr. Carib Goodies, thank you for the lesson in the male psyche
At this point I have to comment on something Charles said:
"if I was interested in a girl romantically, I would glance, but turn away
quickly if she looked back.
If I wasn't interested romantically, I wouldn't avert my gaze because I wasn't
embarrassed by my thoughts. See how confusing this could be."
For some reason I've come across that with EVERY SINGLE GUY I KNOW. And I really
hate it! Well ok, not every guy, but my brother and his best friend don't count
lol.
Now I've had conversations about this with some of them, and they all said the
same thing: a guy won't show he's interested in a girl because he won't be sure
if she's interested and doesn't want to make a fool of himself.
 Wow, because
ya know, that's exactly what girls do, except that girls aren't typically the
ones that do the asking, so when the guys are like that... *groan*
 For a
handful of individuals to exhibit such behaviour is one thing, but for a whole
generation in one country... suffice to say it's now one of the driving forces
behind leaving this old rock
Ahem, ok so to answer your question Mercy, I would suggest asking him to hang
out with a few friends, like Angel mentioned. I wouldn't go straight out and ask
him, but that's how I am. |
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 ID: 207419 Posts: 95 | Date: 2007-09-12 23:02 date date? well u could always start casual like just spending time together. or
so but hey how about asking him to come over and dress nice...then take him out
somewhereSoon enough i'll be on your wall and you'll wanna be me |
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| Date: 2007-09-13 00:26 Yes of course you can ask guys out! You are probably better at it than they are
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 ID: 202838 Posts: 280 | Date: 2007-09-13 10:18 Hey i Have a huge tip on how to go about it.... just open your mouth and ask him
to go on a date with you.
Example
You: Hey are you bored
Him: Sure
You: Wanna Go on a date
Him: Sure
See thats was easy now you try it. gokesean |
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| Date: 2007-09-13 21:14 Oluwaseun Adegoke:
Hey i Have a huge tip on how to go about it.... just open your mouth and ask him
to go on a date with you.
Example
You: Hey are you bored
Him: Sure
You: Wanna Go on a date
Him: Sure
See thats was easy now you try it.
My friend Oluwaseun he knows what is real |
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ID: 202838 Posts: 280 | Date: 2007-09-14 04:59 Saif Khan:
Date but ...make sure too.
Example
You: Hey are you bored
Him: nope 
You: Wanna Go on a date
Him: impossible. 
heheheheh:
if answer like this then?
don,t worry try another guy...may be????
I like that but if he is not bore then you would ask
You: Hungry?
Him: Definately
You see there are other ways.
hehehehehe gokesean |
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 ID: 155195 Posts: 542 | Date: 2008-07-08 10:22 I don't think there is nothing wrong in asking a guy out. Though i've never done
it, but if i see my right man, i will surely go ahead with it.
I think when u see someone you like, you jsut take it gently, talk to the person
the first time, second and thirdly you might tell him you reason for coming
close to him.
I wouldn't know if that works, its jsut a suggestion
Lets hear what others think
Libby |
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 ID: 237093 Posts: 1298 | Date: 2008-07-08 11:30 Mercy Kaudresi:
i find it very hard to ask a guy on a date. i have actually never done it. any
clues in the house on how to go about it??????????????
You could maybe be a little bit shy, nothing wrong with that
a guy can sometimes find a shy girl a little more attractive |
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