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 ID: 188801 Posts: 176 | Date: 2007-05-05 14:31 Why do women not like nice guys?
I DID EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD FOR MY EX, AND SHE TREATED ME LIKE CRAP |
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 ID: 182758 Posts: 92 | Date: 2007-05-05 15:46 ..that does not mean "all women"..it's how you experienced ..your ex |
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 ID: 183020 Posts: 267 | Date: 2007-05-06 14:43 its just the other way for women too. when you are too nice and you do
everything your partner wants, you are at her beck and call, she takes the
attenttion for granted and gets tired of you easily. i'm not saying you should
not be nice, but you should learn to say no sometimes. she will respect you
better. every girl wants a man and not a baby. a man stands his ground. so to
keep your girl, be a man. get tough a little, it helps. be in control. sexy |
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| Date: 2007-05-06 16:12 "every girl wants a man and not a baby. a man stands his ground. so to keep your
girl, be a man. get tough a little, it helps. be in control."
Busola I could kiss you!  I wish the guys I get involved with could or would follow that
guidelines  I think the problem with guys who actually have to
-think- and focus on doing that is that they would inevitably turn the girl off,
either because they'd exagerate or because it would clash with their normal
behaviour, so it would certainly depend on the guy 
Well Niall, either there was something you weren't doing or she was a bitch -
that's what most people conclude usually, I agree up till a point. It could
easily be a mixture of both. If a girl doesn't like what her guy is doing and
repeatedly tries to get through to him but for some reason he fails to
understand, she gets irritated and you know what happens when we get irritated.
I personally snap and turn very cold, which for some people classifies as being
bitchy. Then there are some girls who, no matter what you do, are naturally
bitchy, and if you don't meet their expectations they will be even bitchier than
usual.
To emphasise Busola's point, nice guys .. they're ok. They're generally soppy
and sweet and cute and so -sensitive- ... to the point of asking 'What's wrong??
Is everything ok??' whenever their girlfriend isn't smiling - she's not frowning
or looking mad, but she's not smiling or laughing, and when their girlfriend
tells them 'No, I'm fine' and means it, they ask over and over again if
she's ok.
 Sensitive is fine sometimes, but it can be REALLY annoying most of the time
because it's unnecessary. It's not the nice guys we don't like, it's the guys
who seem like they still need to grow a pair.
*ahem* Aside from all of that... you said you did everything, but did you
really? Did you grow wings and fly?  Can't imagine that happening - no wait, I can, but it's
unlikely. I understand the feeling that the person you love took you for
granted, believe me, but the facts are this: 1. there is -always- something you
wouldn't have done, because you wouldn't have thought it important and she
wouldn't have said it was because she expected you to know it - and it probably
isn't your fault because how are you supposed to know what she wants if she
doesn't tell you? 2. If someone takes you for granted, ditch them, and don't
bother waiting it out in the hope that some day she'll appreciate you because
while it might happen, the damage she'll have caused -before- she appreciated
you would cause many many problems. [Trust me on this one, please?]
Last bit of advice: she's your ex. She's the past, she's gone, she's not
important anymore. Letting the past get you down is a one-way ticket to the
stagnation of personal growth and learning from experience, and while I know
this sounds really cold and lifeless, it's the truth. |
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 ID: 182744 Posts: 1738 | Date: 2007-05-06 16:18 That's a lesson I learned a long time ago. You do everything for someone, then
they expect everything from you. One day, when for whatever reason you cannot
deliver or be there, it becomes a problem because you led them to believe you
would always come through, no matter what.
Bottom line is that, at heart, we are not nice people. We are jealous, selfish
and greedy. These aspects we keep covered up when dealing with people in
everyday life, but they exist in everyone. When we go out of our way to please
someone of the opposite sex it is because we want something from them. If these
things done to please our partner are not our natural selves, eventually the
facade breaks down. It becomes work to please our partner, especially after we
have gotten what we wanted from them...a relationship. And when it becomes hard
work, believe me, it shows and your partner can pick up on it.
Suddenly it's: "You used to do this, you used to do that. You don;t like me
anymore."
Or the other way around. Maybe she never really had deep feelings for you in the
first place but your level of attention was to good to turn down. In this case,
as soon as things become a little rough or a better prospect comes on the seen,
she will get tired of you and move on.
Another aspect is that a woman who is paid too much attention to can feel
trapped. You are doing so much that she feels trapped or obligated. This fosters
irritability and begins to shake things apart.
Take a loook at yourself and what you want. When you approach women, are you
really being you or are you putting on a show to impress? This takes some real
soul searching. Women like gifts and little nothings that show you are thinking
about them and cherish them, but be careful not to go overboard. If being nice
24/7 isn't you, you will not be able to sustain your services and you will seem
false.
Be yourself. That is the only way you are going to attract someone who is
interested in you rather than what you can do for them. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should  |
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 ID: 189228 Posts: 294 | Date: 2007-05-07 11:28 That is one big down fall several men seem to have, and part of the problem
attributing to your failing relationships.
You can't think of women as a whole. There is no one reason why we do something,
their is no one answer for our actions. We do not think the same.
Your relationship obviously didn't work out for one reason or another, and
depending on the woman you were dating you may never get a straight or truthful
answer.
You can do 2 things at this point, either simply move on and accept that perhaps
it simply was not meant to be.
Or/and do some soul searching to find things about yourself or your attitude and
style of communication which might had lead to the down fall of previous
relationships.
If you continue to look bag and bring that into your next relationship, it too
will falter.
Their is very little which is more unattractive to me then a man obsessed or
even unknowingly obsessed with prior partners.
If you can not maintain a good friendship with another person then you most
certainly do not want to move forward and date/marry them.
The best you can hope for in our lives is someone who will not lay it on you
constantly for your failures, but instead help to pick you back up and move
forward TOGETHER.Everything I've done, and all that I have yet to do, is only to forget the meaning of your name. |
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ID: 183020 Posts: 267 | Date: 2007-05-07 16:17 so Niall, what i think you should do is follow what everyone has said and you'd
be happy with the next girl that comes your way. and please dont get too tough,
that will also be a diasdvantage. i wish you luck sexy |
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 ID: 190831 Posts: 383 | Date: 2007-05-08 09:33 i like the bad guys and not the good guys because they make u feel like the
woman and they act like men ok thats for me. |
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 ID: 179376 Posts: 839 | Date: 2007-05-08 09:57 Unfortunately, nice guys always finish last...
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 ID: 191108 Posts: 12 | Date: 2007-05-09 03:45 haha... nice guy drama...
it's weird to me now when guys say that they are nice and ask why women dont
like them.
women dont like nice guys for a myriad of reasons: there boring, there fake,
there probably gonna "switch it up" on the woman with jealousy and fear. and no
one believes a nice guy to be what he maintains himself to be... nice.
cause we know ourselves, we know that we want things from people, we know the
lengths people will go to to get those things.
i wouldnt want a nice guy to manage my business... the employees will walk all
over him, taking longer breaks and lunches, not felling the pressure to perform
etc.
women know that if your too nice it has implications in your job security, your
ability to deal with hard to handle situations, your ambition, leadership
qualities are called into question, which puts a certain ceiling on your
earnings potential.
you can be rich and still be a loser nice guy its just harder, your nice to
women but not your employees.
what really HOT women generally want is a guy who doesnt show these character
deficiencies on the outside. but when doors are closed becomes a teddy bear they
can cuddle up to, and feel safe and protected with.
when im in a relationship i CONSTANTLY challenge my woman to prove shes still
right for me, you dont stop the courtship after a few months have passed or your
engaged or married.you have to constantly put work into your relationships if
you want them to last.
does this mean that i dont do nice guy things for them?
NO.
i do, do those things for them, but only if theyve proven themselves worthy of
having a candlelight dinner, or flowers, diamonds etc.
nobody appreciates what comes easily, and sadly for nice guys, they always
do.
-Dimeonce in a lifetime happens everyday
-me |
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ID: 189228 Posts: 294 | Date: 2007-05-09 12:11 Yup, Albert defined it pretty well. At least for me. I know there certainly
other woman out there who look for different things.
There are certain times and in some ways where I like a man to be a man. But it
also has to be the RIGHT man for me to let him get away with it. Everything I've done, and all that I have yet to do, is only to forget the meaning of your name. |
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| Date: 2007-05-11 15:13 Personally I think woman love nice guys but initially it's the bad part of guys
thats attractive. The wild side is alot of fun but eventually a smart woman will
see through that and get bored. The nice guy will always win in the long run. |
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| Date: 2007-05-11 18:11 "The nice guy will always win in the long run."
Please don't be offended, but from my experience only a
man, or a very naive woman/girl could believe that. Yes, it's possible that the
nice guy comes out on top, the question is how long he remains the apple of the
woman's eye. A true nice guy is hard to find and even harder to keep: he's
usually hiding some ugly quality/ies, let's his niceness degenerate because he
doesn't 'need' it anymore to find a mate [and this is actually the norm, same
with women and appearance], or his niceness becomes aggravating and boring.
This of course depends on the woman, but seeing that most of us are brought up
on fairy tales of Prince Charming, handsome, good, kind, brave, and daring, we
expect the reality to live up to no less than that. The question is not 'can
every man be Prince Charming?' but 'can every woman settle for less?' |
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ID: 183020 Posts: 267 | Date: 2007-05-13 08:29 YES, thats true. Can every woman settle for less? the truth is women do settle
for less depending on the situation.sexy |
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ID: 189228 Posts: 294 | Date: 2007-05-14 11:22 Women, by nature, are not suppose to "settle".
It's only with the development of our societies, civilization, emotions and a
sense of "normalcy" that we start seeing more and more woman and even sometimes
men, settling.
To settle for someone is far from survival of the fittest, which plays into whom
we pick to be our mate and produce our offspring.
Lets face it, there are a lot of people out there that probably shouldn't be
breeding.
What is one of the first things we, as women, do when we get to know a man..?
We sit and wonder "should I settle for him" are his down falls, or me being nit
picky worth dealing with or putting up with for this one said man.
Does the good out weigh the bad?
Maybe some of us are initially more drawn to the "bad boys" because it's the
strength of them which attracts us.
Think of a lioness and a lion.
A young adult lioness has 2 choices.
That devilishly handsome lion with his long dark mane, powerful, maybe some
battle scars, standing out at a distance, aloof but making it known as to what
he's after.
And then the younger male with a smaller, lighter mane, in ok condition but not
rippling with muscles, no scars, no visible signs of hardships that he has won
or over come in his life time. He is shy, and maybe not as forth coming with
trying to obtain the lioness as the other males.
Who do you think the lioness is going to pick?
It is our emotions as humans that makes both woman and men equally complicated.
Not that we are "just women".Everything I've done, and all that I have yet to do, is only to forget the meaning of your name. |
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 ID: 194198 Posts: 6 | Date: 2007-05-17 03:16 Physical fitness is one of vital matter................. |
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| Date: 2007-05-17 10:00 "Physical fitness is one of vital matter................."
As are possession of brains and character. |
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 ID: 193204 Posts: 8 | Date: 2007-05-17 10:07 Haha that question, my brother asked me that too.
"Why do women not like nice guys? Why do they only love assholes??"
Mmh.. to what i replied:
"why do you love bitches?"
We love those who hurt us.
Because love hurts! and we grow up this way.... Even if it's easy to say. |
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ID: 189228 Posts: 294 | Date: 2007-05-17 10:21 Marie Claire Saliba:
"Physical fitness is one of vital matter................."
As are possession of brains and character.
Ha!
I have to agree with that one.
I could never sleep with a man, let alone date, a man with no brains and little
to no character.
The ones I do come across I can only tolerate for a very short period of time
before excusing myself.
I would take a man in good health, be him on the skinner or thicker side. I
don't reserve myself to the body builder types and only them.Everything I've done, and all that I have yet to do, is only to forget the meaning of your name. |
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