To Do OR DON'T?: Getting MARRIED OUTSIDE Of One's RELIGION? Total results: 16 Pages: 1 [ 1] Mystique Eyed Phoenix IonU |
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 ID: 114505 Posts: 926 | Date: 2007-07-18 02:53 Tell us your thoughts &/or feelings about becoming a fulltime partner to someone
of extreme different beliefs than your own?
AND, for those of you who don't 'believe' in marriage--
I already provided an alternative option ...
So you could feel comfy joining in the discussion>
Would it still be hard for you to "LIVE Together" with an extremely different
situation of background?--Would you give it a try, if the opportunity arose, or
would you be preset to disregard the idea in advance of those type of
circumstances?
What strange things  love has done to people in history... |
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Mystique Eyed Phoenix IonU |
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ID: 114505 Posts: 926 | Date: 2007-07-24 05:45 WoW...Not like I'm surprised or anything, BUT I think the "M' word is a
taboo.
But maybe there's a ban on tying the "knot"??? |
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 ID: 170792 Posts: 688 | Date: 2007-07-24 06:00 I wouldnt do it coz at one time conflicts will arise. but if at all u two know
how to manage ur differences its alright. afterall u get married to someone with
whom u can settle ur differences considering u can never b perfectly th same as
any 1.all th best |
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 ID: 194304 Posts: 68 | Date: 2007-10-28 22:58 This doesn't seem to be a popular subject with forum members. Too bad. I think
Tekhanei has come up with a great topic for people to be open and real about.
This is a great way for everyone involved to find out a little more about
themselves. Go Tek!
once upon a time.
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 ID: 182744 Posts: 1551 | Date: 2007-10-29 11:40 I am Roman Catholic and my ex-wife Church of God of England [Anglican]. (About
the only difference between the two religions is that one can remarry after
divorce.
The Roman Catholic church would not endorse a my marriage to a non-Catholic so
we married before a judge. Good thing too....because the marriage was not
recognized by the Church (my priest said I was living in sin) my divorce isn't
either. Means I can maryr again within the regulations of the Church.
Religious differences were never an issue between us and she participated
regularly with my religious ceremonies, at least in so far as the "Christians"
would tolerate our 'sinful' union within their midst. I think the looks and cold
shoulders got to her a little and it did jaundice me to the multitude of
hypocrites abounding within the Church. Ah well, I forgive them.
I have had some problems dating protestants in the past especially 'Born Again
Christians'. The Catholic Church has no monopoly on hypocrisy. Seems to be an
equal opportunity practice.
The Born-Agains I have dealt with tend to want me to attend their Church as
opposed to mine. Usually when they find out I am Roman Catholic they wrinkle
their face like they stepped in doggie doo and immediately try to cure me of my
idol worshiping ways. Funny thing is, I do not recall ever worshiping and idol
nor have I ever seen a Catholic worshiping an idol yet Born-Agains seem to think
we all pray t o graven images.
So, I have had relationship problems with extremist religious beliefs but those
problems are very short lived. I always know where the door is and have never
been hesitant to use it. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should  |
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 ID: 197842 Posts: 149 | Date: 2007-10-30 08:00 Well, in my country marriage before a judge is much more popular than wedding in
church…so some people don’t even know whether their partner is of the same
religion
Religion itself is not too popular here… |
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| Date: 2007-10-30 08:57 I think it is a matter of choice. Are you willing to evaluate the problems later
on . Ususally the problems occur when children come into the picture. Which
religion are they going to follow etc.. this matter should be sdiscuss before
marriage |
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ID: 182744 Posts: 1551 | Date: 2007-10-30 16:14 Ann Goleva:
Well, in my country marriage before a judge is much more popular than wedding in
church…so some people don’t even know whether their partner is of the same
religion
Religion itself is not too popular here…
That is unfortunate. Your country historically had a very rich religious
history. Is the current situation as a result of the many years of Soviet
influence and the forbidding of religious icons? I am curious...religion has
been an important part of keeping families together and dedicated to the whole
in the past. How have family structures maintained themselves in your climate of
diminished religious popularity? Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should |
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ID: 197842 Posts: 149 | Date: 2007-10-31 05:08 Carib Goodies:
Is the current situation as a result of the many years of Soviet influence and
the forbidding of religious icons?
You are absolutely right! That’s the reason.
Because of Soviet propaganda my parents and grandparents are atheist and because
of them I am too (but in these latter days I’ve changed my mind – now I
consider myself as agnostic).
Carib Goodies:
I am curious...religion has been an important part of keeping families together
and dedicated to the whole in the past. How have family structures maintained
themselves in your climate of diminished religious popularity?
Here religion is popular only in villages. Families are united there and the per
cent of divorces is extremely law (unlike big cities, where religion is less
popular). So maybe you are right: religion helps to keep families together.
But I still think this is not the most important in marriage: my grandparents as
a couple are exemplary for me – they are both atheists but married for about
50 years. How did it happen? It is a sealed book to me!
P.S.
My grandparents are not the only one happy atheistic marriage – there a lot of
them. Why? Maybe there is “love supreme”…
P.P.S.
Just remembered: last year I had “history of religion” class (that was
government’s try to increase students’ religious feelings). And guess what?
We were given such talentless teacher (I think she is religious fanatic) she
retold bible stories in such perverted form (she also liked to remind us how
would we boil in hell etc.) that even devotional students became sick of
religion.
The moral is: don’t try to change someone’s religious beliefs - the answer's
a lemon! |
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 ID: 114641 Posts: 157 | Date: 2007-10-31 09:51 I know some marriage partner with different religions.
Christian and Muslim, Christian and Budhist, Budhist and Adheist, ...
There is no difference to other couples ... some are lucky some are'nt 
One realy nice couple with 5 children are mixt ... he's muslim - she's
christian
... Hes from Lebanon - She's from Liberia - and this two people are wonderfull
... and also their children
... I would have NO problem with mixed marriage  Tomorrow must be the longest day because everything is scheduled on it  |
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 ID: 177973 Posts: 191 | Date: 2007-11-16 14:20 Depends on how religious my spouse would be. I wouldn't mind a few things here
and there around the house, but if she were to keep pestering me to join in her
other religion's rituals and such, I don't think I'd like it. |
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 ID: 213967 Posts: 53 | Date: 2007-11-22 04:30 wel..i think nothing is wrong with it as long as they love each other plus, dey
serve the same God they should just try and understand the fact that they have
different believes and they should respect that and all but i don't think
anything is wrong with itIdolsofnet.com |
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 ID: 115296 Posts: 39 | Date: 2007-11-22 05:12 well muslims and christions can marry and muslims are allowed to marry them
because they believe in God and all there believes are same but some changes are
there....mr Dash |
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 ID: 218182 Posts: 10 | Date: 2007-12-04 17:21 mixed religion- marriages work mostly when the 1 or both partners is/are not
staunch/ardent, otherwise problems almost inevitably arise as 1 tries to
convince the other to be converted to his; in which case the marriage becomes
most blissful if 1 party concedes and is converted to the others religion.
mixed marriages pose no problems if partners are easy-going with their religious
stand(s) . Chal chal |
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ID: 194304 Posts: 68 | Date: 2007-12-15 15:12 I feel the bottom line on this issue is that if you marry unequally yoked, the
main thing is that because you must have married for love, rather than to
convert each other over to your beleifs, give each other the opportunity to
honor his/hers beliefs. It opens the door of opportunity for you to learn more
about each other.
Dominic
once upon a time.
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Mystique Eyed Phoenix IonU |
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ID: 114505 Posts: 926 | Date: 2007-12-27 03:27 Dominic Ventura:
I feel the bottom line on this issue is that if you marry unequally yoked, the
main thing is that because you must have married for love, rather than to
convert each other over to your beleifs, give each other the opportunity to
honor his/hers beliefs. It opens the door of opportunity for you to learn more
about each other.
Dominic
Cheer here, 'Dominoes'
[ We know each other, for those of you who don't know any better...NOW, ya
do. ]
Unyoked...Is NO JOKE...& the egg-on-knee &/or agony issues will test the
relationship from time to time.
So Honor is a BIG KEY & LARGE Asset in
providing an MMA: MUTUAL MODE of Allowances, with preset & determined depth &
range finding mindsets entering any basic union. Surely it will foster
understanding in the long run, granting freedom for future peace, thus equalling
a ground level of security.
In return, it will dispell the pyramid of violence...U'll have to
study...Hint:.Define R.V.P. |
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