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 ID: 251058 Posts: 26 | Date: 2008-07-19 04:09 I know many models know a hard, travelling life. I'm only 24, single, and at
most-points in my life, very desirable. I noticed when I was back in college
after an 18-month deployment to Ramadi, Iraq with the Army...that the thing most
hindering me in the dating scene was that I was divorced. I got married young
and only let myself get talked into it so that she could have full benefits (she
had no healthcare/insurance) and we would get more money. I knew I would be gone
for a year and a half with a couple two-week vacations. The time apart was hard
and we grew apart and she did not support me while I was gone, as she was still
young and needy, not ready to be tied down.
We had a clean split, nothing hugely bad happened, but I found that more than me
being a few years older, when a woman that I was interested in found out that I
had been divorced, it was almost like they didn't even want to consider going
out on one date with me.
Is it something I should only tell someone that I get closer with?? Is it
something that is overlookable in my case, and realize I made a self-less choice
young and impressionable that doesn't affect me bad today?  Was it just
that I was seeing/dating college girls and many were younger and possibly not as
understanding?
~Thanks for your input!! 
((Recent photo from Camp Bucca, Iraq. The largest US run detention facility in
the world. {36 times larger than Guantanimo Bay} )) |
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 ID: 233525 Posts: 114 | Date: 2008-07-19 06:00 Don't sweat it. I was in the same boat over 20 years ago. Just got married and
got orders for Korea, 6 months later she asked for, and eventually got the
divorce. I can't say what the attitude of kids (I can say kids) in college now
towards the Army or the military as a whole, but I hope it has improved over the
years. But starting out any kind of a relationship with a secret is never a good
thing. I'm not saying telling your whole life story on a first date, but let her
know and like you for who you are, then she will most likely accept the fact you
made a mistake early on in your life. " A word is worth a thousand pictures " |
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ID: 251058 Posts: 26 | Date: 2008-07-20 04:48 Thanks for the good advice 
I agree with not lying or keeping secrets in a relationship... especially in the
start. I hope to eventually find someone who likes me for who I am.
Sorry about what happened when you got stationed in Korea... I know how hard it
is to deal with that while being so far away.
Thanks again  |
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ID: 251058 Posts: 26 | Date: 2008-10-23 05:26 Hmmmm... no one else viewing this has an opinion>? lol  |
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 ID: 260629 Posts: 555 | Date: 2008-10-23 06:10 As you get older, you're going to find being divorced isn't going to make any
difference, unless you have kids. At most, it should at least point to that at
least one other person find you special.
Of course, the smart choice was not to get married in the first place. Learn
from Jim Carrey and not get married to try to save a relationship. If there are
issues when the people involved are single, getting married is not going to fix
the issues. |
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