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 ID: 200435 Posts: 9 | Date: 2008-08-05 14:11 I went out with a guy for 10 1/2 months and did the usual teenage falling in
love thing.
I lost it to him and gave him everything I had. He left me cause he said we were
too young to get serious and he wants to have some fun.
Over the last year he has messed me around a lot by stringing me along, even
though we split up last June. During that time he has also fooled around with a
few other girls. One of them really annoys me and I've never liked her. He had
sex with her recently, about a month ago and apparently he caught something but
it's gone now... I'm not sure what to do.
Last week he sent me a message via MSN after I posted my new pictures up on
myspace from a photo shoot I did with my friend as a play thing. He asked me to
go out on a date with him, nothing serious and it didn't have to be right
away.
Obviously I still have feelings for him and I'd love to say yes but I don't know
if I could trust him to treat me right and be exclusive this time round. I said
I would but I'd wait until I come back from my holiday (Sept 7th) before we
decided anything, like where to go and whatever.
Have I made the right decision?
I'm really stuck because my friends want be to be happy and don't know what to
say to me. I'm hoping someone outside my loop could be more helpful.
Hope someone can help me!
Emma-Leigh
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| Date: 2008-08-05 14:26 If he's running around with every other girl he can get I would hardly think you
can trust him, there's better guys out there you can have that would treat you
far better, best option would be give him the big shove out of your life all
together!
Decision is yours though but think long & ask yourself do you really want him
back?
I've had trouble myself with cheating girlfriends, I gave too many second
chances & in return they all just did it again |
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 ID: 182744 Posts: 1920 | Date: 2008-08-05 16:34 Your problem is having flirtatious communications with him after he dumped you.
You had no time to grieve and get over him. His personality will not have
changed, nor his desire to experience other women.
While you were broken up, but obviously still talking (he was keeping you in
reserve) he caught a venereal disease. Apparently cured? Whew!!!!
Are you seriously willing to take that chance? Why? And what else did he catch
that has not been diagnosed yet?
Listen, Emma...you seem to be a sweet and attractive girl. Literally a million
guys out there will be interested in you, some of them jerks and some of the
really nice guys. Do not fixate on this one guy who already threw you away. His
mistake! Only an idiot throws out good china. Do you want to hook up with an
idiot?
I have a rule that has served me very well: Never go backwards. This guy was
good only for teaching you one real lesson in life: Never trust a jackass
twice.
You need to cut him off. Block him from your messenger. Do not accept his
telephone calls. Passing on the street, a polite hello is all he gets. It is
obvious that this guy knows nothing about friendship, so you do not have to
worry about losing a friend.
Yes, your heart will hurt. Everyone goes through this. Yet it is not the end of
the world. A week or two, maybe a month, of cutting off contact with him
forever, and your heart will have gotten past him and opened up to newer, nicer
possibilities. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should  |
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 ID: 183688 Posts: 215 | Date: 2008-08-05 19:02 There are more fish in the ocean.
Swim around and have a look and enjoy the new surroundings.
Cheers |
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| Date: 2008-08-05 22:35 Yip, say goodbye to memories of him and get out the bigger fishin' pole. Next
time maybe you'll catch a whopper!
LOL!!
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 ID: 155195 Posts: 733 | Date: 2008-08-06 00:51 I can really see you've got to take much more time before making any decision.
Though you ended the relationship not quite long and its very normal for the
feelings to be fresh, but lets look at it from this persepective. What if you
gave him another chance and he ended up being the same person he's always been.
He might say is just an harmless date, thats what most of them say dear, and as
you know, women are weak when it comes to emotion. I'll rather advice you stay
far away from him. People don't change that fast.
If you want to go out on a date or something, do it with someone else, not
someone thats just taking you as an occasional hobby.
I'm pretty sure he's got some other girl friend for now and probably maybe he
told his friends he might still make a fool of you because he saw your pics
online. Don't be caught off guard again. I'm not insinuating you are being made
a fool in the first time, i know you love him and you gave yoru all but there
are some guys that doean't deserve to be loved. He is one of them.
Use you head and not follow your mind in this situation because the mind will
definately tell you to give him a trial.
Put him behind you and start something new.
Good luck
Libby |
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 ID: 246345 Posts: 671 | Date: 2008-08-06 04:26 U can find someone better, so don't look back |
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ID: 200435 Posts: 9 | Date: 2008-08-06 14:07 Thanks everyone, especially Carib for your comments, you made me feel waaay
better.
Luckily for me we had a fight last night cause he reckons as his best friend I
haven't been carig about him enough and helping him with his problems. I even
offered to lend him some money to pay me back later but he was too stubborn to
see an offer there. So I did block him =] I even cancelled seeing him ^_^
I usually start talking to him again soon cause he'll start a convo but I'm not
gonna. I just need a someone new, though I'm having troubles finding a someone,
you guys have cheered me up and hopefully I'll find the guy soon... |
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ID: 182744 Posts: 1920 | Date: 2008-08-06 14:57 Don't force yourself to find someone new. That path leads to disaster as well.
Your life is worth much more than the sum of the guys you go with. Follow your
life as normal. Concentrate on you. Treat yourself nice and special because you
are. Do the things you love doing. Hang with your friends. Volunteer. Take an
extra class. Anything to benefit you.
Just don't force the relationship thing. The best things in life come to those
who wait. You do your normal routine and one day Mr. Right will come into your
life. In the meantime, just be you. Become self sufficient, secure and confident
in yourself. That is how you survive relationships and find gentlemen who are
your equal.
(PS: The role of a best friend is not to accuse the other friend of not caring
enough. That was an incredibly selfish statement he made and, to me at least,
proof that he is just looking to increase his Harem.) Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should |
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ID: 155195 Posts: 733 | Date: 2008-08-07 01:22 Emma Gallifant:
Thanks everyone, especially Carib for your comments, you made me feel waaay
better.
Luckily for me we had a fight last night cause he reckons as his best friend I
haven't been carig about him enough and helping him with his problems. I even
offered to lend him some money to pay me back later but he was too stubborn to
see an offer there. So I did block him =] I even cancelled seeing him ^_^
I usually start talking to him again soon cause he'll start a convo but I'm not
gonna. I just need a someone new, though I'm having troubles finding a someone,
you guys have cheered me up and hopefully I'll find the guy soon...
Yea, you do need someone but come to llok at it, don't you think it will be kind
of too early? you need sometime by yourself girl. You need to clear somethings
in your mind, so do give yourself sometime. Thank God you ahve friends that can
take you out if you feel like, so make good use of it.
Don't ever look back at him, he isn't worth it girl.
You can do it, if you believe it
Libby |
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ID: 200435 Posts: 9 | Date: 2008-08-07 15:23 It's been 1yr and a bit now and I'm starting new studies and I've made loads of
great friends and I am waaay to flirty for my own good. I've had a few people
interested but I've always said no because of my ex so I might get in touch with
a few people and go hang out with them. Kick back ad have some fun!
Once again thanks ladiiies =] |
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| Date: 2008-08-07 15:41 My experience is that if you settle down too young you are more tempted to play
around, it's the same on both sides, have fun now & play safe
Look for serious relationships later on when you're in your mid/late 20's |
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 ID: 273161 Posts: 341 | Date: 2009-02-01 13:18 deff... deff.. don't go back out with him.. |
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