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| Date: 2007-04-25 23:48 Samuel de Champlain (a Canadian historical relic) married a 12 year old at the
age of 36, and then divorced her and married a 13 year old at the age of
40...
And age doesn't matter as long at the parties mentioned are obeying the laws set
fourth by their country.
I would personally date someone as old as 45 years old, and I am 18. |
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 ID: 114641 Posts: 158 | Date: 2007-04-26 03:54 what's the difference ... the age? ... the maturity level? ... the sexual drive?
a realy problem are this kind of man, who can do it only with underaged girsl
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*hm* I think, that in a long term relationship the age gape is not problem the
first years
... but when after some happy years the older partner gets about 60 and the
younger is maybe 35 - then are to many differences in their interests 
and what happend in case of casual datings or casual sex? ... no problem, if
both want it at this time ... I think, that younger can learn from more maturity
(both way) ... but I don't think, that sex for a older man is much better with a
very young girl - woman over 25 have more experiances in sex and better feelings
and maybe younger boys should learn how to give pleasent moments to the girls
from older woman ... than the younger girlfriend have more fulfillment with him
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 ID: 189693 Posts: 12 | Date: 2007-04-26 03:11 Hi ArteMaXX!
i believe age doesn't really matter!
as long as you love each other and you're happy with what you're doing.
like me, my bf's 13yrs older than me 
i love him soooo much.. and our relationship is goin' stronger and stronger..
I can resist everything. Except temptation.  |
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 ID: 190831 Posts: 383 | Date: 2007-04-26 09:20 i used to think age was a big deal but since i joined univeristy i see gals who
are 25 dating boys much younger and its normal. actuall nowdays my attitude is
cahning and i think its okay. why not take a chance. after all JLO said age is
just a number |
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 ID: 192280 Posts: 3 | Date: 2007-04-30 08:38 I believe that the age does not have relation with the love, you can love some
person but old that your or but young, problem is that every one generates
espectativas according to its age, like an unmarried person of 30 years, so you
see wants to marry and a other of 20 wants does not interest to him.
jgytjg id yahoo |
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| Date: 2007-05-05 11:58
I think a lot depends on the culture with regards to age ! |
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 ID: 188484 Posts: 6 | Date: 2007-05-06 01:53 I love this topic!
I'm 14, going to be 15 on Monday.
My ex is 19, going to be 20 in August.
So. We had/have a 5 year age difference but when we were together I was 14, and
he was still 18 and people thought of it as OMG BETHANY YOU'RE GONNA GET RAPED.
But when I say that he's 19 and I'm still 14, people are like, Oh, ok.
But my parents are 10 years apart so Its not that big of a deal having an age
gap.
Age can't separate unconditional love. ..Bethany Christine REDMAN.. |
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ID: 192280 Posts: 3 | Date: 2007-05-06 02:04 i think so bethany u and me can be a couple, what u think?? |
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 ID: 193011 Posts: 2 | Date: 2007-05-06 08:15 well, i don't think age really matter, unless you care what other people think.
you shouldn't if you're really serious with the relationship. |
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| Date: 2007-05-06 17:54 I have 2 problems when it comes to relationships and age.
1. As many of the people have said, age doesn't matter, so long as you love each
other. I disagree. I could love someone to death and still not want to be with
him because he's such an immature git I wouldn't be able to get what I need from
him mentally, emotionally, sexually, and so on. Why sexually? Well, if he's at
the stage of immaturity where he's only interested in getting off, guess who's
going to be severely unsatisfied *raises hand*.
MATURITY is the key... after, you know, actually getting on well with the person
and having mutual interest and feelings for each other. Because of this whole
maturity issue, guys my age, younger, and a few years older are usually too
immature for me. I say usually because it's not always the case - I'll bet there
are 50 yr olds out there who are too immature for me, just as there are 20 yr
olds who are too mature for me. However, because the general rule [unless you're
a mathematician] is that most of the guys in my age group do not match my own
level of maturity, I have to say that usually, age matters.
2. Age doesn't matter so long as the person is mature, is mutually interested
and has feelings for you, and you get on well together - except when they're old
enough to be your parents, old enough to be your grandparents, or are in your
parents age group. The same applies to the reverse: except when they're young
enough to be your kids, your grandkids, or are in your kids age group. Picture
getting married and having your kids from another person calling your new spouse
'Mom' or 'Dad', when your spouse is their age, a couple of years older or
younger... Now picture getting married to someone old enough to be your parent,
and having your parents call him/her 'son' or 'daughter'.
*shudder* *shudder* *shudder*
Ok, I'm done  |
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 ID: 183878 Posts: 1356 | Date: 2007-05-07 16:25 I learn more and more from these discussions, even at my advanced age.
There's an imperative at work that does not often rear its hoary head. Men and
women are hardwired, unless something goes off the track, to procreate.
All the attractions between the sexes generally benefit that imperative. An
attractive spouse means attractive children (usually, not always--recessive
genes come out to play--Prince Charles, for instance). A strong spouse, a
successful spouse, etc, etc...
In a world where factors are not disturbed by starvation, loss of security, war
and pestilence, men and women can get pretty choosy. Start changing the
environment and the factors of survival come into play.
That's why 40 and 50 year old farmers married 13 and 14 year old girls, even in
the USA during the early part of the 20th century. A hard life wore out women
and they died younger. A land-owning man, even advanced in years, was a catch
for a young woman looking for security.
Then there's that stray dog mentality that 90 percent of men have to spread
their seed among as many females as possible. Some never give up or grow up, as
Marie said. Apparently there are a few women for whom the same is true. Recent
news articles here have reported women in their 40s and up--teachers--taking on
their male Jr. High students. The ones that get the most press are the younger
attractive ones, but there are plenty of the older and less attractive ones
going at it too.
I guess those that have the opportunity, takes the opportunity--as long as they
are capable of sustaining the sexual function.
Here in Daytona Beach, every spring and fall during the motorcycle events I see
teenage girls riding on the back of some really old, fat, hairy biker's
Harley-Davidson.
While I still had my BMW, I got the same offers. Some girls just want to meet
bad old men (For the record, I just laughed--I might have flirted a little, but
this old horse has a pretty good filly in the barn), maybe they are same girls
that can't seem to avoid bad boys.
Who knows for sure. I quit trying to figure it out a long time ago.If I haven't been there, I'm still planning on going!
If I haven't done it, I've still got time to try! |
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 ID: 182744 Posts: 1795 | Date: 2007-05-24 14:09 I have not taken the time yet to read all of the additions to this thread, but
one thing concerned me.
Large age gaps between mature adults is no problem. By mature, I judge that as
starting at age 25. No, I do not mean the difference between the common concept
of mature and immature. I mean a certain maturity that only comes from having
life experience. A kind of maturity that it is absolutely impossible for
a teenager to have, no matter how adult they act.
There are things one learns in life about human behavior and human character
that cannot be guessed at. You must have the constant contact, the seeing of the
motives behind the actions, the experience of conflicts had, or long-term
reactions seen, of learning behavior and what triggers behavior.
Between a 40 year old and 25 year old compatibility can be achieved a lot easier
without one or the other manipulating the relationship. And even then, if it is
the woman who is significantly older, she has a huge advantage over a man. Women
are forced to mature much faster than men because they gain human-contact
experience much earlier. From the moment a girl starts developing breasts, and
in many cases even much earlier than that, men are gunning for her. She sees
this, learns from this and gains experience. Even so, this experience takes a
lot of years to be applied in day to day life and in relationships.
When a 40 year old man deals with a 15 year old girl, or even an 18 year old
girl, watch out! Life is vicious, life is uncertain, life is capricious. People
are manipulatable. Most of so when you tell them exactly what they want or need
to hear. A forty year old, smart and with motive, can say and do anything
that a teenager wants to hear. The power or persuasion through not just words,
but actions, body language, everything we have learned over the years that has
attracted the opposite sex to us. When you imagine what a forty year old knows
compared to what a teenager knows, there is no contest.
Every teenager in the world will argue otherwise. But this is an argument based
in naiveté and ignorance bolstered by the hormonal bravado and false confidence
that convinces teenagers that their conclusions about themselves are right. A
teenager cannot withstand the concerted efforts of a forty year old. Period. The
law recognizes this. I do not know how it is possible to get a teenager to
recognize this.
Can a 40 year old, advanced and settled in the world, have a meaningful and
equal relationship with a teenager? Impossible. The teenager
will be subordinate to the world-wise 40 year old.
The law recognizes how simple and easy it is for an adult, an authority figure,
to talk a teenager into something. The 40 year old with be the nicest, sweetest,
most helpful individual on the planet. He won't come at the teenager like a
predator and will have actual genuine feelings of lust. His caring, his
presence, especially at the most tumultuous time of a developing life, will be
the perfect outlet for a vulnerable or even rebellious teen spirit. A teenager
can be convinced of anything. This is the most turbulent part of their life and
also the time period when the mind soaks up more about what is going on around
them than at anytime since they were five. A teenager is so extremely
susceptible to influence that anyone approaching them in the right manner will
seem a godsend.
So the law says 'hands off' and let them develop normally.
There will always be an imbalance when people date or mate outside of their peer
group. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should  |
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 ID: 194271 Posts: 156 | Date: 2007-05-24 15:40 Age diff have never been a problem for me and I can have just as much fun with a
woman older than me or younger. If you click and have good fun together why not,
older or younger. Saw this guy in South Africa a few years ago that married a
woman that was about 70yrs old and he was like 23yrs or close to it. Lasted for
about a year then they got divorced. Now that is going slightly overboard. |
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 ID: 189228 Posts: 294 | Date: 2007-05-25 09:53 The age gap between myself and my s/o is roughly 5 years. To me this is a non
issue. In fact I have never once thought about the age gap between us.
I believe every one I have been with since I began dating was older then me with
the exception of 1.
I can think of man in his 30's right now that I may like to have a relationship
with but it would all hinge on himself as a whole, not his age.
I have yet to be physically attracted to a man beyond his 30's with the
exception of a few bald famous men. >_<
So realistically for me a 10 year age gap or so may be the cut off at this point
in my life.
I do however have friends and acquaintances from all walks of life and all ages.
One, a man in his 50's who's rather good at making all of my problems seem
completely insignificant. And that's precisely the reason we are friends.
And yet at the chance, I denied any further advances.Everything I've done, and all that I have yet to do, is only to forget the meaning of your name. |
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ID: 183878 Posts: 1356 | Date: 2007-05-31 10:01 Sarah R.:
When I was 15 I dated a 19year old. To me It was perfectly fine... But to the cops it was
illegel and NOT acceptable.  I remember the day my parents called the cops. It was horrid they
almost took him away and I am not allowed to see him till I am 18 in 7 months...
I think this law is stupid, if the younger girl/guy wants to then let them if
they say no and the older girl/guy keeps going I think its wrong. I think its
personal for everyone and different. If you can get away with it Congrats to
you! Just be careful...
So by current law, your guy, for whom you still have feelings, is a sex
offender. Probably on a list, restricted in where he lives and condemned for the
rest of his life, even though you were both teenagers with a four year
difference in age?
Anyone else want to rationalize this aspect of the age difference.
Quite frankly, with respect to Carib's comments, anyone who can be susceptible
to sexual manipulation will be manipulated no matter what their age. Other than
legislated mandates, some people never develop a sense of propriety, of
self-worth. They are as vulnerable at 40 as they are at 13.
Don't deny that early teens are prone to romantic delusions that most out grow.
But there are also girls who are predators in their own way from an early age. I
once met an Italian woman residing in the US who was a Contessa or some such.
She said she earned her title when she was 15 and strolling along the beach when
the "Count" aged 65 introduced himself. She inherited everything at age 17.If I haven't been there, I'm still planning on going!
If I haven't done it, I've still got time to try! |
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| Date: 2007-05-31 12:08 Charles - He is not listed as a sex offender that I know of he is not in jail -
sometimes I see him around - No I do not have feelings for him anymore I love my
current boyfriend so much. The other guy and I never did anything for him to be
an offender. We didn't have sex. he was in Jail for like 3 days then he just
left town - I don't blame him one bit. |
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ID: 182744 Posts: 1795 | Date: 2007-05-31 13:16 Joshep Rf:
i think so bethany u and me can be a couple, what u think??
I think that if you lived in the U.S. you'd be in big trouble right about now.
Be careful...you're 22 propositioning a 14 year old across state lines. A
federal offense. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should |
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ID: 182744 Posts: 1795 | Date: 2007-05-31 13:56 William Grimshaw:
100 years ago 16 year olds married 40 year olds in the US
You still can in most states. Some states have no minimum age.
Those that have minimum marriage ages are as follows:
New Hampshire: Cannot marry if under age 13
Alabama, North Carolina and South Carolina: Cannot marry if under age 14
New Mexico and Utah: Cannot marry if under age 15
District of Columbia, Illinois, North Dakota, South Dakota, Kentucky, Ohio and
Vermont: Cannot marry if under age 16
Oregon: Cannot marry if under age 17
The remaining states not posted here have ages of marriages listed, but allow
younger than those ages to marry with parental consent or court approval. The
remaining states also neglect to mention in their laws a minimum age for
parental consent or court approved marriages which means they have no minimum
age for marriage. Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should |
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ID: 182744 Posts: 1795 | Date: 2007-05-31 13:35 Ages of Sexual Consent across the Us (Which is different than age of marriage,
which in many states is younger than the age of consent.)
USA by State:...Female/Male....Male/Male.....Female/Female
Alabama..............16
Alaska..............16..............16..............16
Arizona..............18
Arkansas..............16
California..............18..............18..............18
Colorado..............17..............17..............17
Connecticut..............16..............16..............16
District of C...............16
Delaware..............16 (f)18 (m)
Florida..............18
Georgia..............16..............16..............16
Hawaii..............16
Idaho..............16 (f) 18 (m)
Illinois..............17..............17..............17
Indiana..............16..............16..............16
Iowa..............16(f) 16(m)
Kansas..............16
Kentucky..............16
Louisiana..............17
Maine..............16..............16..............16
Maryland..............16
Massachusetts..............16 (f) 18 (m)
Michigan..............16
Minnesota..............16
Mississippi..............16
Missouri..............17
Montana..............16 (f) 18 (m)..............18..............18
Nebraska..............17
Nevada..............16..............18..............18
New Hampshire..............16..............18..............18
New Jersey..............16..............16..............16
New Mexico..............17..............16..............16
New York..............17..............17..............17
North Carolina..............16
North Dakota..............18..............18..............18
Ohio..............16
Oklahoma..............16
Oregon..............18..............18..............18
Pennsylvania..............16..............16..............16
Rhode Island..............16
South Carolina..............14 (f) 16 (m)
South Dakota..............16
Tennessee..............18
Texas..............17
Utah..............16 - f 18 (m)
Vermont..............16
Virginia..............18
Washington..............16 16 16
West Virginia..............16 18 18
Wisconsin..............18 18 18
Wyoming..............16 (f) 18 (m)
Law repealed
US Military..............16 don't ask, don't tell don't ask, don't tell
USA Citizen Outside the USA 18
*Source: National Council of State Governments Have faith that the universe will unfold as it should |
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